A Journey of Self-Discovery and Empowerment
by Lisa Augspurger, M.A., MEd., LPC-A
In 2017, I made a decision that shifted my perspective on life in ways I never expected. I said “Bah Humbug!” to the annual holiday letter. Even though my daughter insisted I write about our new puppy, and a friend texted asking when they could expect to receive their copy, I chose to forgo the tradition. That year, I needed to pause and reflect on my life in a way I hadn’t before. I realized that it was time to forgive myself, let go of the past, and start living the life I truly wanted to lead.
The most challenging part of that realization was acknowledging how much I had been living to please others. I had spent so much of my life worried about what others thought—fearful of saying “no,” and constantly hiding behind a façade. It became clear that it was time to embrace who I truly was, and in doing so, begin the journey of transforming my life.
Embracing the Changes in My Family
In November of that year, my son turned 10. As a 4th grader, school didn’t excite him. He found the work boring and easy, and his homework felt like my work. I kept hoping he’d mature and start taking responsibility, but deep down, I feared it would never happen. Raising boys, I realized, was so different from raising girls.
His eating habits were odd—he wouldn’t eat fruits or vegetables unless they were fruit snacks. He’d eaten peanut butter sandwiches for years, but suddenly stopped. Mac 'n cheese became a staple, and I could barely keep up with his growing appetite of the oddest meals. On the other hand, my daughter, now 12, had entered the age of independence. She practically lived in her room, which was both a relief and a bittersweet transition. But, she thrived—responsible, dedicated, and creatively inclined. It was at this moment that I gave in and got her a cell phone, which turned out to be one of the best decisions I made that year.
Meanwhile, I took a leap in my own career and transitioned from teaching high school to teaching 7th grade. It was a significant shift, one that pushed me out of my comfort zone. But as I navigated the changes at home and in the classroom, I also learned that change, while challenging, could be incredibly fulfilling. I was learning to embrace the discomfort and uncertainty that came with stepping into a new role and allowing myself to grow.
The Power of Letting Go and Saying “No”
What became clear to me in 2017 is that I had spent so much of my life trying to meet others’ expectations—whether it was being the “perfect” mother, daughter, or teacher. This year was different. I began to say “no” to things that didn’t serve me, and that was freeing. I realized that by focusing on my own needs and desires, I could create the life I wanted, and I could model that for my children.
The process of embracing change also meant connecting with the women around me—those who supported me and made me laugh, those who inspired me to take risks. One of the most surprising joys of the year was ballroom dance. It was something entirely new, and it brought me immense happiness.
Support and Connection: Embracing the New
That year also taught me the power of support. My parents were there for me when I needed them most. My dad helped repair my house after a hurricane, and my mom made sure my daughter was up on time for school. This sense of community—both family and friends—reminded me of the importance of surrounding myself with people who encouraged and uplifted me.
We also welcomed a new puppy into our family, Luna, a mischievous terrier mix. She brought joy and chaos into our home, and her antics reminded me that even in the most unpredictable moments, there is room for love, laughter, and learning.
The Art of Letting Go and Embracing What’s Next
As I look back on that year, I realize how much I grew. I stopped seeking approval and began prioritizing what truly mattered—my family, my growth, and creating new experiences. It was the year I embraced change fully. I let go of old habits and created space for what felt authentic.
This is what I encourage my clients to do: embrace change, allow yourself to grow, and trust that life can be full of unexpected transformations. Change is often uncomfortable, but it is through this discomfort that we find our strength. Whether it’s in your career, relationships, or personal development, embracing change allows you to step into your true power.
Just like I learned that year, change is the catalyst for growth. It’s in the most challenging times that we have the opportunity to rediscover who we are and what we truly want out of life. And by letting go of the past, we allow space for new opportunities—one step at a time.
If you’re in a season of transition, struggling to find your footing, or seeking guidance as you embrace change, remember that you don’t have to go it alone. Revise Your Life Counseling, PLLC is here to support you on your journey. Let’s work together to navigate the unknown, embrace the discomfort, and allow for the possibilities.
